What is your work?

Mary Oliver in her wise way tells me something incredible. “My work is loving the world. Here the sunflowers, there the hummingbird— equal seekers of sweetness Here the quickening yeast; there the blue plums. Here the clam deep in the speckled sand.” This feels like an internal yes to me. This Saturday morning when I…

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How to make sense of your life…Be Undeniably Good

Steve Martin said it best on the Charlie Rose show: “When people ask me how do you make it in show business or whatever, what I always tell them–and nobody ever takes note of it ‘cuz it’s not the answer they wanted to hear–what they want to hear is, ‘Here’s how you get an agent. …

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We can’t hold on to things and move forward…

 Announcing:  My new book North of Divorce: Ten Steps Into A Beautiful Life The irony wasn’t lost on me. After years and years of work as a psychologist and leadership consultant–working with couples and individuals– I found myself wondering how the rug got pulled out from under me. Humbling to say the least. So I…

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Open the door to your freedom…

The vastness of the human heart is as timeless as it is profound. No matter the circumstance, we can choose to remain openhearted, knowing that the possibility of freedom is available to everyone. Jack Kornfield 

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Writing on the heart…

“Poetry is eternal graffiti written in the heart of everyone.” — Lawrence Ferlinghetti   Like the air we breathe, poems are necessary for life. Find poems that speak to you and lift you. Allow them to enter you as a cleansing breath. Do not hope to get something from poetry but to be released. Released…

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And did you get what you want?

We all long for it. You want to be close. You love him. You really want this relationship to work. You want to be known and to matter to him and finally find a refuge, a safe place in this world. Even when its hard and even sometimes hopeless, we want that feeling of refuge,…

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Your Life is not a package tour…

The temple bell stops– but the sound keeps coming out of the flowers. Basho Have you noticed when on social media like Facebook, Pinterest or others, how so many people post beautiful and tender things and we are touched by it? There are the flash mob videos where we are stunned by the unexpected beauty of…

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