It makes you wonder, doesn’t it?

Why are you trying so hard, why are you working so hard, why has the energy and love you have for your loved ones not get the time and expression it needs?  Have you ever been at that point in life where you say: “There has to be more, why am I working so hard, what does it all mean anyway’? Perhaps you say that as a couple: “What has happened to us, how did we  lose the energy of us”? Or maybe at work, you wonder why even if you’re successful or your business is successful, you are not happy”?

Someone once said that you will never feel loved until you drop the act. That is a hard one for most of us to believe. Most people think that you have to do something really special to be loved and admired. This is one of the biggest attachments or beliefs that we have, the belief that we are not good enough. All of us want to have things and have good experiences in life but most of us also have very mistaken beliefs about what this means or how to go about being happy.

It’s hard to understand this process of being happy. It probably should be the easiest thing on earth but we are complicated and the world is complicated. It’s just hard. It’s hard to be real. It’s scary. How do we let people in? It’s important to find intimacy with others, to have friends and to have a life partner.

I stand with you in this. Through my own enormous mistakes I have learned great lessons, through years and years of education and experience with thousands of clients, I have established a wonderful practice devoted to this.  I have made the choice to be happy and I have curated the wisdom of being real and happy.

Here you will find out how to walk the path of being real, to swim the depths of your misguided attachments and to take the plunge and commit to happiness.

Into a beautiful life - Blog

Life is not the cause of our unhappiness…

Life is not the cause of problems and unhappiness.  It is the commotion the mind makes about life that keeps us unhappy. Shakespeare said it best: “Nothing is either bad nor good but thinking makes it so”. When we look at life directly without our stories, it becomes simpler. I recall one day in particular in…

Come back to yourself

Do you have the courage to be yourself? Astonishing the freedom of being truly yourself  brings. I had a terrible two years. My husband left me and my mother died the same week.He left after a long time of struggling. He wanted to leave and was denigrating me to get up his courage. After this…

My Own Journey

It is no simple thing understanding attachment. Letting go is a process. It’s been a long journey for me to this moment. As I finished my PhD as a young psychologist, I learned many years ago to help people reframe their mental models to more effective ways of thinking. I often would quote Shakespeare and…

Unconditional Acceptance of Yourself

Many of us are familiar with the idea of loving our spouses, children, or parents unconditionally — and we might even try to practice that unconditional love, though imperfectly. But do we try to love ourselves unconditionally? Consider whether you do any of these: Criticize your body. Feel like you need to improve at things….

Breathe

Breathe. 4-7-8 Breathe in for 4 counts, hold it for 7 counts and then expel for 8 counts. On the 8 count make it last until you can feel the air going out all the way from your abdomen. By doing this it will force more oxygen into your blood and help relax you. Works…

A Path Appears

Make your life less complicated.  Life will never be completely easy but what if you were able to let go and follow some very wise, very ancient advice and suggestions about making yourself happier during your time on this earth? What if you stopped making it so complicated and hard? The “Less” Guide Less TV,…

Letting Go: The Hardest Lesson

Letting go of our stories, blame, and grief is a hard lesson, but it will serve you all of your life. Letting go is the ultimate lesson. I remember a sunny but cold day in Plymouth, Massachusetts. I was living with my ex-husband in a condo overlooking a golf course in the Pinehills. I took…

What You Will Find Here

Welcome to Into a Beautiful Life. I hope you will find something of interest and value here.  The main ideas are taken from my experience over the years with clients and my own life. Ideas and wisdom come from psychology, eastern thought namely Buddhism, poetry, many well known authors and many other sources. Here’s what…

Choose Happiness

The road to a happy life is a choice.  Life is a very precious thing and we must ask ourselves what are we doing with it. To begin with, you have to realize that you really only have one choice in this life, and it’s not about your career, whom you want to marry, or whether…