My Own Journey

by Judith F Kennedy, PhD

It is no simple thing understanding attachment. Letting go is a process. It’s been a long journey for me to this moment. As I finished my PhD as a young psychologist, I learned many years ago to help people reframe their mental models to more effective ways of thinking. I often would quote Shakespeare and still do from time to time: “Nothing is either good nor bad but thinking makes it so.” Meaning that as we believe so we see. Seeing things differently makes all the difference.

This journey as a psychologist in seeing hundreds and hundreds of people over the last 20 years has brought me a significant and deep understanding of human beings and human nature. The tools and lessons I have learned are rich and effective.

I have consulted with and counseled many leaders over the years. Leadership is not only about gaining the tools to lead others it is about character. It is about becoming the person you would want to follow. There is a significant amount of letting go and a deep understanding of attachment if one is to become a wise leader. Becoming a wise leader is about serving others and living a fulfilling and happy life.

I remember as a little girl helping my grandmother wash communion glasses in our little Methodist church. The lessons I learned from her, those of faith and serving others have been enduring. The journey from that time to now has included 25 years of Buddhist and eastern thought. Early on I learned that studying this wisdom is not necessarily a religion but a modern day psychology that informs and enhances one’s spiritual life. I am a senior student of Jack Kornfield and have studied with him for over 15 years sitting over 30 meditation retreats from 7 to 30 days. Being mindful, letting go of attachment, embracing vulnerability and living in the moment are guideposts on the way to a happy life.